Virginia would have been 16 years old this year, her brother Tino 19 years.

"We love you to the end of time", these words had been carved on the tombstone. Behind the chapel of the graveyard in Hoya the white angels, the numerous flowers, and the grave tended with loving care express everything without words. The children are miss ed badly and are living on in memory.

In this there is no difference between Rosita Dusbabas catholic family and other families who have lost a child and keep its memory by having a silent dialogue by the grave as a place of peace and dignity. Not so with the grave of the Dusbabas.

Four heavy lamps have been stolen, the angels destroyed - not for the first time. The material damage meanwhile amounts to some thousands of D-Mark. But what is worse are the hurt feelings of the family. Especially on that day when they found a heap of hum an excrement on the grave with a piece of toilet paper on top. The feelings of rage, grieve and helplessness of the family are easily to understand. They do not know who is going on to do this since 1984, when Virginia was buried. But Rosita Dusbaba herse lf has heard remarks like " Let us have a look at the gypsy children". The background of this is obviously not the exotic Roma family, who live in Gadebünden since 20 years, but to run them down.

"My children cannot find their peace". If Rosita Dusbaba would have foreseen all this, she would not have buried her children in their birthplace. She and her husband have already thought of moving them to the graveyard in Nienburg. "But it is too expensive, my husband is only a little scrap merchant and we live from hand to mouth". They are saving money for buying a new white angel. But they cannot buy the respect of the people. Perhaps the state authority can force this. The Dusbabas have brought a charge against the desecrators of graves and the police is investigating.